It could have been worse

It could have been worse,” she said very kindly.

Yes, yes it most certainly could have.

Believe me, I’ve used that phrase many times and alternately been called an optimist and a pessimist for it. Being labeled for saying that makes whatever the situation that much more frustrating.

It could have been worse is a phrase designed, I think, to allow yourself to get out of a mood that something got you into. But it also stings when someone says it, because of context.

When it’s appropriate to say, it tends to come across to the person needing to hear it as,

well, look on the bright side….”

No. Not yet. I need to wallow in this for a bit first. I need to let the frustration, anger, disappointment, sadness, grief process. In a way it can be taken as a directive to snap out of it.  (And yes, depending on your age, you just pictured Cher slapping Nicholas Cage.)


It could have been worse.

We’ve all said it to others, and have had it said to us. Just as the person saying it to you doesn’t mean anything but kindness (most of the time) we don’t either, when we say it. But we never remember the sting it packs when you’re on the receiving end.


It could have been worse.


Yes, yes it could have.
But … it should have been better.


The onus should not be put on me to make the best of a shitty situation someone else caused. The lies, the mistakes, the blame, the arrogance …

  • It could have been worse.
  • It should have been better.
  • You promised it would be better.


It could have been worse.

  • It could have been worse. I could have needed to believe you, instead of just wanted to.
  • It could have been worse.Your words could have had meaning.


It could have been worse.

But still, YOU should have been better.



About Laurissa Doonan

I'm a marketer. I've been a professional marketer for over 25 years, but in reality, I have always been one. Marketing to me is about communicating effectively, regardless of platform, regardless of channel. Marketing is understanding both your objectives and your audience, and finding the right method and message for your customers to reach them where they are. Now I dedicate my efforts to helping very small and small companies pursue their passions and grow their businesses through marketing; providing agency trained expertise without the overhead.
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