We watch TV, movies, where scripts clearly and definitely lay out evidence, behaviors, stagings to ensure we get the message loud and clear. The goal of those are to provide the audience with a clear, clear message, from start to finish, without too much distraction and confusion.
Life isn’t like that. Life isn’t scripted.
I admit it, I was disgusted watching as the former leader of one of the top Intelligence Departments in the world, a man who is highly educated, highly experience, highly intuitive due to years of acting in the arena of spies and behavioral analysis, didn’t have the “wherewithal” to speak truth to power.
That disgust quickly turned to frustration and anger as I recalled the disappointed looks I received when others felt I didn’t speak up, didn’t set boundaries, and allowed myself to remain quiet in the face of abuse of power, temper tantrums, or questionable requests. Then a reminder of the times I did and had my job threatened.
The former director of the United States FBI was stunned into inaction at the audacity of a request. Yet in business and life we are held to a standard of speaking truth to power, being called out if we don’t, being subject to a threat of insubordination if we do.
It’s just not that simple.
Life is like nature, it’s definitely a food chain hierarchy. And despite the desire and lip service we give to “speak our truth”, the leadership goals and training are pointless in the face of human behavior in a chain of command setting.
There’s little point in putting finials on the banister if the staircase is rotted though.
Aside from the specifics of the recent hearings and whatever spin you want to put on the events, there were a whole lot of feelings involved, and used as reasons for lack of action, refusals to answers, and in reaction to questions.
If nothing else, perhaps we can begin to admit that we cannot and do not live in a society that is defined by our language which is being refined to legalese minutiae. Context, nuance, non-verbal communications play a role in life, and in interpretations.
Life cannot be defined by the transcript from a court reporter